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To form a social life an important step is to take the initiative to try to make plans with potential friends, and not to wait around and hope they'll invite you out first. Some people say they're not exactly sure how to ask someone to hang out. This article will give a bunch of examples of different ways to do that. Some people who are new to inviting people out worry that they'll get rejected and be seen as creepy or desperate if they don't word their request in the exact right way.
The specific phrasing you use is a small factor in whether someone will accept or not. What's more important is if they like your company, and if the get together you're proposing works for them. Similarly, don't fret if some of the examples below seem like something you could never say.
For one, conversation examples often seem clumsy.
If you find yourself reading the dialogue below and thinking, "Oh, I couldn't say that. That wouldn't work. People have successfully invited friends out using all the variations I lay out below. You may want to check out this article:. If you're arranging a larger gathering you can naturally also use a mix of these methods. I'd say one isn't better than the others. Of course, text messages can hit more people at once, and creating an event thread on a social networking app creates a spot where people can discuss and coordinate the plan.
Again, what will really determine whether people accept is if they think they activity will be fun and it fits their schedule, not if you invite them out in person vs. However you invite someone out, ask in a tone that suggests, "It'd be great if you came, but if not, no worries.
This isn't to say you need to be paranoid about seeming desperate and needy. Inviting people out is just a friendly social thing to do. But still, phrase your invitation in a casual way. If you invite someone to hang out and they aren't interested they'll usually make a polite excuse each time you ask, rather than directly reject you. If it's a group event they may vaguely imply they might attend, then back out at the last second. Of course, sometimes they would be down to get together, but they truly have other plans on the day you suggested.
You don't want to prematurely throw in the towel the first time they say they can't make it, but you also don't want to be oblivious and endlessly ask out someone who's giving you the runaround. Give it about three tries, especially if they haven't made any effort to invite you to anything themselves. If you ask times and they haven't accepted you can conclude they either aren't feeling it or they're legitimately too busy. It's a bit aggrevating, but you may never know exactly what the truth is. Either way, you should direct your friend-making energy elsewhere.
Not everyone you seem to click with will be up for a closer relationship. The "about three tries" rule is simplistic and sometimes accidentally screens out people who could have been friends, but just happened to have other plans each time you invited them out. However, if someone really wanted to befriend you they'd find a way. Most of the time the rule keeps you from wasting too much time on people who aren't a good fit.
Note that just because someone isn't up for a closer friendship with you, it doesn't necessarily mean they totally hate you. They may like chatting to you at work or at larger get togethers, but just don't think you have quite enough in common to be tighter one-on-one buddies. You don't have to start avoiding them completely.
You can stay friendly on a more casual level. The exception, where it's fine to invite someone out more often even though they rarely accept, is when you're on good terms with a busy acquaintance and you let them know about your group's get togethers.
You understand they usually can't show up, but will pop into the odd party. You're fine with them not being there most of the time, but it's nice when you can catch up. You're doing them a courtesy by keeping them in the loop. Even though it's a really common way for two friends to spend time together, inviting someone to hang out one-on-one for the first time often makes people the most nervous.
What if they say no? What if the person agrees to go out, but then things are awkward and you struggle to make conversation with each other? What if you think you'll get along with them, but aren't entirely sure?
Should you risk hanging out with them anyway to find out, or just play it safe and not ask in the first place? If you do go ahead and invite them out, here are some examples of ways you could do it. Assuming the other person is inclined to accept your invitation, each way probably works as well as the others.
It depends more on the context you've gotten to know them in than anything. That puts it all on the table right away, and the other person has to accept or bow out. What you ask them to do will depend on what you sense they'd be interested in doing. Like for one person, in one situation, it may seem totally natural to invite them over to your place to hang out the first time you get together.
With someone else you may get the feeling that wouldn't be as appropriate: Open-ended invitation Here you're gauging their interest in hanging out. If they say yes, then you can work out the details soon after one mistake to avoid is getting a "yes", and then leaving them hanging by not following through.
Here you're presenting a somewhat more solid plan, but you're still leaving it a bit open about when you'll do it. If you make a more general offer to hang out, and the other person isn't interested, they may say something like, "Yeah sure, maybe we could do that sometime soon", but then they'll change the subject and won't follow up later. They'll be "busy" if you try to nail them down in the future.
The other way they could turn you down would be to say, "Hm, maybe I don't know. I'm kind of busy these days" when you initially ask. On the other hand, they may actually be up for hanging out, but you've just caught them in a hectic patch of their lives. You could always try again later.
Usually you'll have a clearer answer once you've asked about three times. You can ask a second time fairly soon, then if they still say no, give it some time before trying once or twice more.
If they still can't make it either they're politely brushing you off, or they've shown they've got too much going on to have time for new or closer friends. This is when your suggestion is pretty solid. The other person has to consider your invitation and let you know their answer fairly soon. Do you want to get something to eat after our evening class? Tickets are cheap. Want to come with me?
Want to hang out at my place and watch some TV? Here the person may turn you down by pointing out some aspect of the proposed plan that doesn't work for them "Oh, I have to work that night", "I've got plans to see that movie with my boyfriend", "I don't know I don't have much money to spend on concerts these days. Again, you'll get a better sense of their intentions once you've invited them to hang out a couple of times. On the link below you'll find a training series focused on how to feel at ease socially, even if you tend to overthink today.
It also covers how to avoid awkward silence, attract amazing friends, and why you don't need an "interesting life" to make interesting conversation. This is when you ask them to do something with you right now, or fairly soon. It can feel a little less nerve-racking to invite someone out this way. When you suggest something spontaneously you can't always expect they'll be available to go, so it doesn't sting as much if they say no.
You can also save face because you can play the whole thing off like it was some idea that just popped into your head, rather than that you've been planning for two weeks to ask them to hang out, and you ever so hope they like you. For example, "Are you free this Sunday?
They figure you want to invite them out, but don't know if it's to something they'd be interested in, so they'll hesitate to say they're free for fear of feeling "trapped" into accepting if they admit they're available. At worst they'll get flustered and lie about being busy, just to guard against the off chance that you'll try to corner them into an event they don't want to go to. It's better to lead off with the activity you have in mind.
The group you're inviting out could be close friends, and you're trying to their clique. Or everyone could be fairly new to each other, and you're doing your part to try to form a new social circle. The actual act of inviting a group out is similar to asking a single person. Some people also find trying to organize a group event less scary, since if it doesn't work out the rejection is more diffuse. It feels like the suggestion itself fizzled, rather than one person specifically declining to spend time with you. Everyone wasn't just turning you down either, they were also saying they didn't want to spend time with each other you can even phrase invitations as " We're doing X, want to come?
Alternatively, some people find extending an invitation to a group more stressful, since if their suggestion goes nowhere they feel like a whole bunch of people is passing judgment on them. What's different with group invitations is what happens after they start considering the plan. When you invite one person out they either say yes or no. If they say yes then you've only go to work out the specifics of the get together with them.Hey anyone want to hangout
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Examples Of Various Ways To Invite People To Hang Out